As I sit in bed this morning, I can feel the effects of Saturday’s work seeping down into my muscles. It’s as if I just picked myself up after being beat with a baseball bat. My head is foggy, each arm and leg feels like it weighs 10 times it’s normal weight. My muscles are aching and tender. My feet are tingling and burning, and the big joints in my feet and legs (and now my fingers) feel like they are full of peanut butter.
One of the big lessons I’ve learned through this trial living with chronic illnesses, is that we all just need to SLOW.DOWN. Maybe you are like I used to be: 100 miles an hour, all day, every day.
Taking kids here and there, always in a rush.
“What’s for dinner?”
“Did I remember to send that paper in for the rehearsal?”
“Oh shoot! I knew I would forget Bambi’s bag next to the front door! Ugggggh. It’s been sitting there all week for me to bring today!”
I know I can’t be the only one out there that was running myself ragged just trying to be a mythological hero named ‘SuperMom’.
No one is worse than ourselves when it comes to criticism. Sometimes I have to tell myself to shut up!
Living with autoimmune and fibromyalgia has taught me a valuable lesson in resting and not being so hard on myself . And believe me, it’s not a pretty sight to get dragged, kicking and screaming, down that path by the Good Lord! Learning how to rest has been the hardest test of my life.
Rest is so important….. so why do I feel like I don’t need it?
I think deep down it’s about pride and trust.
Do I trust that it’s ok for me to take a break?
Can my family handle things without me?
Can my husband take care of the kids without me micromanaging?
I got to the point that I relied too much in my own strength. An empty cup can’t pour out for others something that it doesn’t have. We have to get ourselves filled up.
So, today, I urge you fellow SAHMs, Moms of multiple, and all of you struggling with perfectionism-find some rest today. Get somewhere quiet and private for a little while. Do some things to take care of yourself: take a bath, read some uplifting articles, spend time in prayer… whatever you feel like you should do to rest your mind and body, today.
In going along with taking it easy, here is another meal in my “Easy Dinner Series For Large Families”.
Easy Street-Tacos and Refried Beans
In preparing for the health repercussions of the painting party, I wanted to be real with you all so that you can see into how I think and deal with fibromyalgia from day-to-day.
Living with chronic illness can be tricky that’s for sure, but it doesn’t have to derail your life.
It just takes a little pre-planning! The day of the painting party I slow cooked a big batch of pinto beans in the crock pot. That night I stored the beans in the refrigerator. I knew from past experiences that anytime I have a large physical output (or deal with a stressful situation) that the next couple of days after will be the roughest on me. In preparation I try to make a few easy meal plans ahead of time. This is one of our favorites! It’s easy, cheap, and delicious!
You Will Need
A large family pack of boneless skinless chicken breasts (6-7 breasts)
Cumin seeds and cumin powder
1 lb of dry pinto beans *(precooked, see explanation below)*
salt and pepper
tortilla shells (bought or homemade work well- here’s a link to the recipe I use for homemade flour tortilla shells. This will make the recipe more labor intensive, so either make ahead or skip it and pick up a pack at the grocery)
What To Do
First I get the pan heated well on medium-high, then add the oil. While the pan is heating up I cut the chicken breasts into long thin slices.
I used a large family pack of boneless skinless breasts for this, but you could also use a bag or two of the Tyson fajita chicken that is precooked and just skip the chicken parts of this recipe (I like to use fresh instead of precooked as much as possible to avoid all the extra preservatives and fillers)
* BEAN NOTE: Once the chicken is going I got my beans from the fridge that I had cooked the day before. I froze half of the portion for another quick meal later and used half for this recipe. (making more than necessary and freezing half for later is a big secret I use for cooking for a big family)*
Add the beans into a pot, coating the bottom well with olive oil, and set the heat to medium.
Next, I added the seasonings cumin seeds, cumin powder, chili powder, and salt and pepper to taste to the chicken.
Cumin powder and chili powder, plus salt and pepper to taste in the beans.
Keep stirring both dishes until everything is well combined, stirring frequently during the cooking process, until the beans are well heated and mushy and the chicken has cooked out most of the liquid..
While everything is cooking, I prepare the toppings. Wash cilantro and radishes well. Chop up the cilantro and slice the radishes. I usually serve this meal with sliced avocado as well, but didn’t have any this time…..so add avocado to yours 🙂
At this point I tasted everything and decided to add more cumin and chili powder to both dishes, and I stirred in hot sauce to the beans.
And that’s it!
A 30 minute meal, made from fresh whole ingredients for a large family.